How to Stay Positive & Find Your Happy

Hey mama,

Can we talk about HAPPINESS real quick?  I mean real fulfillment. Not... oh, look at me on social media, everything is perfect and shiny and amazing, but ACTUALLY thriving in positivity, happiness, and fueling your soul!

I honestly feel like I am happier right NOW than I have been... maybe ever? I am full of creative intuition, motivated, physically fit, healthy, spiritually aligned, balanced in my family and my passion projects. I am seriously loving every inch of my blessed life.

Whaaa whaaa good for you.... is that what you're thinking? Are you wishing this was happening for you? That you too could be happier than ever before?

Are you struggling with negativity, overwhelm, frustration, moodiness... and on and on? Do you feel like your life is lacking in one area or another?

Boo boo I've BEEN THERE. That's why I put today's podcast together. In EPISODE 07 of The Mompreneur Mastermind Show I'll be sharing 5 secrets for staying positive and finding your TRUE happiest self. Because boss, when you are happy -- life is just better. When you are positive, you're a better mama, wifey, friend…. and more success and abundance can flow to you because your heart is full.

When you are doing laundry, dishes, or driving in the car today - play this bad boy and learn....
1. How to recognize limiting thoughts and reframe them.
2. Why you need to stop vocalizing negativity.
3. How to surround yourself with light bringers.
4. How to fill your mind with everything good
5. And why you need to realize there are blessings hidden everywhere.
#grattitudejunkie #butforeal

Come join me and learn how to stay positive and find your happy.. because you are so freaking worthy of your BEST LIFE. Today and everyday. I am cheering for you.

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AND... who knows, I might just read your review live on the show!

Love and light,
Stef

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FULL EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION:

What's up. Mama boss. Welcome back to The Mompreneur Mastermind Show. I'm Stefanie Gass, success strategist, and passive income queen creator. If you're ready to step into your God led potential, create profit from your passions and capture the success that is already yours. This podcast was made for you as always. You can find out more and connect with me over at stefaniegass.com. So grab that cup of coffee or fill up that glass of wine and let's dig in to today's show. Hey, mama, boss. Welcome to this episode of the show. And this topic is just so near and dear to my heart. And I'm blessed that this topic kind of sprung into my mind. Recently, I was sitting outside, sunshine was shining on my back. I had my planner, my phone out, and I was thinking about and praying over what topic was next for me for the podcast.

And it was placed into my heart to talk about happiness and ways to stay positive and kind of tap into your happiness, which is here we go, episode seven, five ways to stay positive and find your happy. If you were to look at my life five or six years ago, ladies super negative. It was, it was all about me. Honestly. I was in the wrong friendships. So I had these kind of negative business relationships, these negative friendships and we'd gossip. And we would talk about people. There was a lot of body body hate going on because I had just had kids had gained all this weight. And so I think I was just in this really bad Headspace. When I think about that and think about the quality of life that I had when I was kind of self inducing, all of this negativity by the people I was surrounding myself with the limiting beliefs that I was allowing to just run my life and the quality of life that I have now today, which I truly feel.

And this isn't just me being this, because this is what I should say. This is the truth. I have never been more at peace in every area of my life. I mean, getting in tune with God and with Jesus and allowing God to fully take over my life and to fill me with trust in his plan and to have peace with every single day to have peace financially, because I trust that everything I need will be provided and taken care of peace. In my relationship, I have more kindness and patience with my family. I have amazingly released almost every negative friendship that I had, and it's incredibly been replaced by true angels that God has allowed to step into my life and gifted me that helped me every single day, be the best version of myself and push me and mentor me and help me to grow.

I think about the differences between who I was and who I am. There's really five things that came to light for me that have shifted. So that's what I want to talk to you about today, because I believe that when you take control of your situation and you take responsibility for the a-hole that we can be sometimes, you know, it's not always easy to say, Hey, like I was a jerk. Hey, I was selfish. Hey, I was doing business and all of these things really for the wrong reasons, it takes a lot to just check yourself sometimes and recognize nice. Hey, you know, I, I've got to get in tune with my own heart. I have to get in line with my star player. Just really be honest about the things you want to change in your own heart instead of making excuses for yourself.

And I know that's the hardest thing in the world. And sometimes we don't even recognize the limitations that we have. We don't even recognize that we are this source of negativity or that we are, you know, bringing on our own pain by the relationships that we're surrounding ourselves with or not just getting dropping to our knees and saying, Lord, help me be selfless. Right? Help me to be more kind more patients, give me the gifts and maybe even give me the lessons I need to change my life. These are the five things that I want to talk to mama bosses about today. Number one is to recognize limiting thoughts and reframe them. So what does this mean? I want you to put your, your hand up every time you, you have said one of these things to yourself. Okay. I can see you remember I'm a mom.

I can see everything I'm too fat hand goes up, right? I shouldn't have eaten that pizza. I hate myself. I'm too depressed to go to the gym. I am too ugly to be romantic horrible in this outfit because I hate my body. I can't be good in business because I'm stupid because I don't know how. And I feel like this is really more prevalent in women, which is very sad to me, but also really interesting. And also telling that we just put so much pressure on ourselves to be all things, to be perfect in every aspect. And it's craziness. It's crazy sauce. We are perfect. As we are in all of our messy glory in that extra 10, 20, 30 pounds in that piece of glorious pizza, we are perfect. We are because we're created in God's light and he created us. And to love ourselves, can you imagine your child saying, I hate myself, mom, I'm fat.

Well, guess what? When we put that, those limiting thoughts out into the universe, it's being sold up by the little people that so depend on us to create their reality. So here's what I want you to do. So number one is to recognize when limiting beliefs come into your mind and then reframe them. This is one of my favorite things to do with my clients. Because, because whenever I hear something that they, they say, sometimes it's, I'm overwhelmed. I don't know how to do that. So I'm not going to do it at all. Ladies, those are simply your fears being manifested as a belief. And I believe is just a thought. It is not reality. It isn't, you have to recognize that. Okay. I just said to myself, I don't know how so I'm not going to do it. How about if we reframe that?

And we say, I'm not sure how yet, but I am so grateful that the knowledge is flowing to me now that the right mentor and the right resources are right there for me. Can you feel into that? It's like, what? Oh, like I just created this space for learning. I just opened up my heart to actually getting it done to figuring it out because you have all the power in the world to do anything you want to do when you stop listening to the limiting beliefs that are floating around. Yeah. In your head. How about this one? I can't go to the gym today because I'm too fat and everything looks horrible on me. I mean, Whoa. So you would recognize that. Okay. Okay. Okay. Stuff. I just said this really limiting thing to myself, it was full of, of hate. And I need to reframe that thought.

So how about, Oh my gosh. I'm so grateful. I get to go to the gym so that I can increase my health today. And I'm so grateful that I can love my body for the endless blessings that it provides to me. Instead of talking to yourself with hate, talk to yourself with love, and it takes a lot of practice on this one. It also takes a lot of effort to recognize, Oh my gosh, you know, I just had all this, all this limiting stuff happened in my own mind because we're so conditioned to it. We don't even hear ourselves selves. We don't even hear those thoughts. You have to be very intentional about paying attention to the thoughts that you're allowing to float around because they are creating your day. They're shaping your life. They are drifting out into your beliefs and they're being soaked up by your children, by your friends.

And it is just this negative ripple effect that you are putting out there into your space. So we have to stop top that's number one, number two. Yeah. And this kind of goes hand in hand is that we have to stop vocalizing negativity. This is huge because it's one thing to think. All of these things, [inaudible] beliefs and that's really hurting you. Okay? You're hurting yourself in that one. But when we start to vocalize all of that limiting ish, that is just up in there and we start vocalizing it. We are now making it a reality because when you say things out loud, you're starting to manifest them. You're starting to really back up the thoughts with words. And you're now framing your actual poor subconscious beliefs by saying them out loud. And this includes for me, I mean, I truly feel ladies of this includes gossiping about other people putting other people down.

Even if we think it's going to lift us up, talking about all the ways and reasons that we can't afford stuff and we can't do this and we can't do that. The word camp, the word won't the word pate sheet. Anytime you put in your mouth, the better be tied to his beautiful is amazing. Is incredible. I'm proud of her and I'm guilty of this. Oh my gosh. Y'all I am guilty. I am guilty. The other day. I was voice texting with my friend and I said something negative about someone. And it took me a minute like, Whoa. I was like overridden with, with guilt. And I, I voiced, texted her back. I'm like, yo, I just want to put into the universe. And I just want to ask God to forgive me because I should not have said that that was coming from a place of something jealousy.

I don't even know that was the old Stephanie. And so we've, we've got to forgive ourselves when those ugly, those ugly things come out of our mouth because we're all human. But we do need to realize that when we put those negative words into our space, right, we're creating even more negativity, even more hate and hurt all around us. And we put it out of our mouth. Not only are we affecting ourselves, we're affecting other people. So talk about effecting your happy. You just took it down like five, six, 10 notches right there. So just stop yourself. Do you guys remember when your mom or dad used to tell if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. And I, 1000% believe that. But I, I also believe if you do have something that you want to say and it's negative, it's hurtful.

Reframe it right there, reframe it right there because we don't know anyone else's situation. And who are we to judge? Because all that does is bring our happiness down. Be a world changer, be a lifter, be this positive advocate for love everywhere you go and watch how it shifts the positivity in your life. And look at how much more happiness you start to create in your heart. And that happiness will shoot out of you like rainbows and unicorns tutes. And before you know it, you'll be surrounded by happy people too, because you are what you attract and you attract what you are. It's just the way it works. Number three, this is really hard for people. They're all hard for people let's get real. But this one was, I think the hardest one for me. And it was surround yourself with uplifters and light bringers.

You're like, what the heck is a light bringer stiff. Let me just share with you a sugar, a light bringer is that person that every time they walk in the room, they're shiny. They're happy. They're bubbly, they're laughing. And sometimes those people bother you, especially when you're in this really negative space in your life. I've also been there and I've thought to myself, she's so annoying. You know, she's always laughing her life. Can't really be that good. Oh yeah. Look at Susie Jo over there with her perfect little lie for her hang y'all. That is just full of hate. And that got me absolutely nowhere, but really dark and deep down in my own self pity. And absolutely didn't change anything about the incredible light that that person was bringing into the room. So I want you to look for light bringers and make friends with them, especially if they bother you, that's your challenge of the month.

Go find some new light bringers and make friends with them. Interestingly, one of my most incredible light bringers in my life, we didn't like each other back in the day. And that's because we were both in a negative spot and I think she was a light ringer. And I saw that and I wasn't yet in that Headspace. And so she really rubbed me the wrong way and vice versa. And now, you know, we're light bringers for each other. So if we, if you can recognize a light bringer and then open your heart to that new relationship, I really truly feel that it can lift you up out of your space, out of the negative, dark limiting space. That you're in a lot faster than when you're on your own, surrounded by other dark and dingy, wham people. You know what I'm talking about? You do gotta surround yourself with that.

And here's the other thing. And this is, what's really hard for people. You have to take inventory of the relationships that you already have, that you're already surrounding yourself with right often. And this is what happened to me. You're going to find you've got a couple really hurtful relationships or friendships or business relationships or a boss or someone that's projecting their insecurity onto you. They're angry. They're, you know, mad at the world. And, and I understand that and I feel that everybody has their moment where they can hopefully be brought out of that. But when they're projecting it onto you, you're internalizing that it's bringing you down and yes, it's selfish. But I also think that it's, it's your right to say, I am not going to stand for that. I am not going to allow this person to determine my worth. I am not going to allow this person to pour all of that hate and hurt and make me feel bad when it has nothing to do with me and want you to take inventory, take a look at your call, log from your phone, the last 10 text messages you sent, who are they to the people at your office, because let's get real you.

I have the power to change jobs if necessary, if it is affecting your happy take control of your life. And this is kind of, you know, controversial because people like dang that really negative person is my best friend. That really negative person is, you know, my boyfriend or, or, or whatever guys it's your life. And if you are true, truly in a damaging space with someone, you need to find distance from that. And how much distance is fully up to you and pray for help, pray for some new light bringers to step in. Because even if you can't fully remove yourself from that negative space or that negative relationship, you can spend more time with a light bringer and start to bring yourself over to this positive, happy space that you deserve. You truly, truly do. And sometimes it's really hard to be honest about that and say, Whoa, I'm in this negative friendship and Hey, listen, you may find, Hey, I'm the negative friend.

I'm always talking badly about people. Or I'm the one talking negatively about myself out loud and vocalizing all of this body hate or business hate or that I'm all in debt or that my husband's so mean. That's our own reality. Actually. I know it's true. And when we're talking these things out loud, we're just creating more of the same. You've got to reframe the words that are coming out of your mouth because you can actually change your situation simply by changing your thoughts. And by changing your words, it's so incredible. It's like, it's, it's the most incredible magic that you have within you. You have your own magic wand at your disposal. You just have to learn to use it. All right. Number four is to fill your mind with the good fill your mind with the positive. This is so huge. How many of us find ourselves with not enough time?

I don't have enough time to go to church. I don't have enough time for that podcast today. I don't have enough time for personal development. I'm too busy. And I want, I, you know, I want you to look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself, what are you too busy with? Because I dare say that Jesus has never too busy for us. We call out, we pray, you know, we do devotional and he hears us. So how are we today? Busy for church. And this gets controversial as well because people don't believe that religion is in the church. And I do all I want you to think about is whatever that means for you. Okay? Maybe that doesn't mean church. Maybe it just means spending time in prayer, spending more time on your devotional or spending more time, working out, spending more time, listening to personal development.

It's finding the time to fill your mind with good, whatever the good is in your heart and in your soul. The time is there for you. I mean, we can get off of social media. We can wake up earlier. We can not did all doddle like, Oh, you know, look, I should organize my coats. I mean, guys, I have been there. I promise you, but you've got to find the time to do more of the good that fills your soul. I want you to take note. When do you feel your best? Is it after a workout? Is it after you listened to personal development, your favorite podcasts meet with a coach, a certain friendship that you have, fill your mind with more good. And you're going to put out more good. You're going to start to reframe the thoughts that are living in your mind.

Number five, number five. This is my favorite tip on this topic. And that is to realize there are blessings hidden in every single situation. And my favorite devotional in the entire world is Jesus calling. You guys need to get it. I actually have two copies. One is in my bathroom so that when I wake up every morning going pee, I can read my devotional, totally TMI, but Hey multitasking, because mom life, right? And then the second one is in my car. In case I leave things, get busy. I always find myself with an extra 10 minutes for my class waiting to pick up my son from school in the pickup line. I can read my devotional there because my devotional constantly reminds me. There is good. In every situation you may think the worst thing in the world just happened to you, but I bet you there's a hidden blessing and a hidden lesson, a hidden lesson there.

Maybe you got a flat tire sister who knows maybe that flat tire just saved you from a car accident. Maybe you had, you got sick. I dunno. Maybe you getting sick allowed you to stay home, which was ultimately a blessing because who knows what could have happened. Right? So every situation, so instead of complaining, because complaining is, is just as bad as negativity, it's just as bad as gossip complaining is your new worst enemy that you're going to fully fully turn away from say, thank you. Oh wow, thank you for that situation. You know, gosh, what a blessing. I challenge you. We've had a lot of challenges in this, in this shell, but I challenge you to try and find the hidden blessing blessing or the hidden lesson in your past experiences, because it'll help you see that no matter what you're going through today, that is also a blessing.

And it's part of your journey. And without every single experience, every single day, we can't grow. You can't have an incredible ending to a book without having the moments in the book that just bring you to tears. The moments in the book that fill you with fear or you're on the edge of your seat, or you're angry. Those emotions are necessary for you to have the most ultimate reaction to the end of the story. And that's what's happening in your own life as well. But you have the power to craft the way that you react to every experience in your life. I want you to understand that you can recognize the limiting beliefs that you are bringing upon yourself and it's okay. We all do it, but you need to take control back of your mind because your mind is yours. And what type of mind do you want?

What type of thoughts do you want your children to have? I want you to change that you have the power to change that cycle. Stop vocalizing negativity. This means complaining. This means talking negatively about others, comparison, voicing, body hate all of those things. All that's doing, ladies is sucking the happy right out of your day and right out of your heart. Number three was to surround yourself with uplifters and light bringers. Just do it because they're incredible people and they're all around us. Find one, make that person, your new BFF and start modeling their happy behavior and see how quickly see how quickly it's almost contagious. The difference it will make in your own life and the satisfaction that you feel every day when you go to bed. And the gratitude that you're full of next is to fill your mind with good find what makes you just beam with light?

Is it a certain sermon? Is it a certain podcast or book, a certain friendship, mindfulness, exercise, meditation or prayer? What is it for you journaling, find it and do it every day. Do it multiple times a day last is to start to recognize and vocalize that there are blessings hidden in every single situation, not just in every situation, but in every physical thing around you, everywhere. There's blessings. I mean, all of the things we have, all of the things are a gift. So start to vocalize that and realize that and recognize that nothing is here to hurt you, but everything is actually here to help you grow. Start coming from a place of gratitude and stop coming from a place of want. And I promise, I promise that your mindset will shift and you, my friend will find your happy. At least I hope so because I was able to find mine on these tips did transform my life and actually who I was as a person.

I pray that they do the same for you. So I'm going to wrap up now with an abundance prayer for every single one of you, mama bosses. And thank you so much for hanging with me on the mompreneur mastermind show. I've had a blast so far. I hope that you have too. And I want to hear from you if there's a topic that you love and you want me to talk about it in greater detail, have a second episode on it. If there's a training that you just really resonated with, come over and share that with me. You know where to find me on social media, you can leave me a review on iTunes with your comments. I will do more of what you guys want as my, as my tribe, as my mom, preneur mafia, just let me know. All right. So I'm going to leave you today with an abundance prayer.
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I am praying over every single one of you right now that are listening and that listen on the replay and that share this podcast with someone that needs to hear it. I pray that you're able to remove the negativity that's living inside of our hearts, the limiting beliefs that we have about ourselves and about our situations and realize you have the power and you are perfect. And you were perfectly placed in your current situation to grow. And that today is the first day of the rest of your life. And that you can take your power back and change your thoughts and change your, your words. And that my friend will change your situation. I pray that God gives you strength to make these changes in your life and that you believe in yourself enough to know that you can actually do it. So that's it. I'm going to just send you off with love and light and I'll see you soon, Stef.