Hey girl, heyyyy,
Is it Monday, or is it Monday? #morecoffeepelase
I don't know about you, but I had a crazy busy weekend! Started off Thursday with a women's conference at my church, then had my little turkey's 2'nd birthday par-tayyyy (time flies... tear), my older son's soccer game, church and a wedding... oh-my.
P.S. you should totally come watch my shenanigans in IG stories.....
Today - I made it through Zumba (barely), had an awesome interview for the podcast and am back on the healthy-eating-train. I feel my best when I'm eating my best... don't you? Plus, I am on a mission to see at least ONE stomach ab on our new year's cruise this year.
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How to Love Yourself & Build Self-Confidence with Special Guest Jessika Brown
In Episode 06 of The Mompreneur Mastermind Show, we will be talking about loving you some YOU! I am beyond excited to be pairing up with top dietician & self-love guru, Jessika Brown from Nearly Nutritious. We will be teaching you why not loving yourself is holding you back (in every area of life) and, Jess will be providing some seriously amazing tips to build up self-confidence and beat body-hate, for good!
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FULL EPISODE TRANSCRIPTION:
What's up. Mama boss. Welcome back to The Mompreneur Mastermind Show. I'm Stefanie Gass, success strategist, and passive income queen creator. If you're ready to step into your God led potential, create profit from your passions and capture the success that is already yours. This podcast was made for you as always. You can find out more and connect with me over at stefaniegass.com. So grab that cup of coffee or fill up that glass of wine and let's dig in to today's show.
Oh my goodness. Hey lady bosses. I am so, so excited right now. I'm almost jumping out of my chair. I have such a super, super special guest with me right now. I've known this gym since middle school, and I think that God recently brought us back to actually, no, he recently brought us back together because we have just been able to work together and she's a previous client of mine, but also a great, great new friend, reunited friend of mine as well. I am just so, so, so thrilled to be welcoming. Jessica Brown from nearly nutritious. Jess is a registered dietician who has been working in the health industry for the last 11 years. And ladies, she has certifications in eating disorders, sports diet, dietetics, dietetics. It's a hard one. And you may recognize her from New Mexico living TV. She's had a lot of spots on there and my favorite, her incredible Ted talk, a healthy cause to find healthy.
You just welcome. Happy, happy, happy to hear. So you're actually the first guest. Yay. I feel so honored. I'm super glad to have you, you know, I thought of you because I know that my community is going to learn so much in today's show. And I think the first thing I really would love for you to share with everyone is kind of your story, how you became passionate about what you do. So why don't you go ahead and dive right in. So my story is one that involves years of growth and thinking I had it all figure out and change and setback and then more growth. But I would say that my fight was my body started back in high school. I think it's, I hate to say this, but I think that's normal. I think so. So many of us, right? So many of us, I mean, I just kind of did the normal things, like thinking I was too fat to, you know, this boy said one thing to me and it stuck with me. I think every girl has that moment in their past, but I can remember just, I always felt like my body wasn't good enough. And I started to do things that most girls do, which is figure out how to not be fat. Of course, it's just like ridiculous. I just, I mean, did you do anything crazy in high school? Oh, of course. I mean, who didn't. I remember having, you know, you know, all the girlfriends we had in high school names, like don't worry. So many of our friends were dealing with eating, you know,
I remember somebody telling me, Oh, you have so much cellulite in your shorts, hearing him in eighth grade that stuck with me. It just, I didn't wear shorts until I was like 31 years old because the dude who didn't even matter told me you have cellulite. I mean, right.
Like that's probably the first time you even heard what it was exactly. Like, then we Google it. Where, what is that? Oh, it's something bad. I used to be worried about this. Oh,
Personally of course I totally did dumb stuff. I remember there was a phase and it actually came later for me, but actually after college where, I mean, I would work out for two, three hours a day. I would live off maybe five, 600 calories. My goal was to burn more calories than I ate. Yep. Yep. And I mean, it looked like crap because you don't have any
Feel like crap. And I was right there. I mean, I remember my boyfriend's, mom's telling me about the special K challenge, which I don't know if you remember, like the special K K cereals and their advertisement, which was like, eat this for breakfast and lunch and lose 14 pounds in two weeks. Like I was a high school athlete. I had no business, but I just remember her talking about it and thinking like, Oh, this is what you do. Like, this is what we're supposed to do. Right. But I found, I was spending more time trying to figure out how to make myself look a certain way and feeling insecure in my body that I wasn't actually participating in life. And that carried on when I went to college, living in a dorm room where three out of four of us had eating disorders. Yeah. And then eventually four, cause that would be the fourth one.
Do you feel like that had, sorry, I'm going to make you lose your, do you feel like that had an impact on you getting an eating disorder? Absolutely. Are they open with it? Absolutely.
Nobody was open with it, but I remember like in particular my best she's my best friend, still one of my best friends. She was struggling with anorexia and just being a very, I'm just naturally an empathetic person. And so I saw her struggling and it kind of started with like, I wanted to show her she could eat. So I started to eat more like in front of her to say, all right, you're okay to eat. It's safe to eat, but you too, like, I hear I'm trying to fix someone else's problem. But I, I also am incredibly insecure and struggling with my own body image. And then I start gaining weight. And now all of a sudden, I go, what am I supposed to do with this? So inter bulemia Oh, so it was just a nightmare. One thing on top of the other. And I stayed in that really dark place for probably about two years. And it wasn't until I went, I studied abroad in Australia. So I left this country by myself. New, absolutely.
Talk about like a whole life shift. And how hard is it for people that already have eating disorders to have massive life shifts? Because the stress level is just amplifying what you're already dealing with.
I look back and I think like, Whoa, how did I even get there? What catapulted me? That it was definitely a God thing because when I was out there, that's when God really inter back into my life. Because up until that point, I had really fallen away. Faith just was not a part of who I was, but I had this dream. So I'm in Australia, I'm laying in bed. And I wake up in
This full, you know, head to toe body sweat. And I had a dream. I cannot articulate it to this day, but I know the feeling when I woke up was this like almost audible voice that God was telling you, like Jessica, you are loved, like come back to me. And ah, that was a game changer. Wow. Oh yeah. I mean, it was literally like, I feel like God wrapped a rope around me and tug me back, get it together, come on. You are mine. But I think just that, that new light of looking at my, myself as I am loved, like period, no stipulations. No, if you look a certain way, it was just, you are loved period. And that really catapulted me into a whole different direction. I, I ended up coming back. I graduated and I went back to school because I knew I wanted to work in the health field to help people just feel comfortable in there.
How was your recovery pretty short after that point? So if you don't know a lot about eating disorders, that characteristics are very unique to different types of eating disorders and bulemia is very much associated with like impulsive high impulse high-risk takers who flip a switch, the, a type, the entrepreneur, probably many on female entrepreneurs have dealt with this eating disorder. Right. He's surprised. Wow. It's more just this, once you flip the switch. So I say like, I purged bulemia I was done. Yeah. And it was completely over now the body image issues took awhile. I think that's normal for most women. Yes. I feel like that's decades for some, for probably all of us. My mom, I remember her telling me, just wait for your thirties, my thirties, or my best years. And I'm like, whatever, like I'm 22 over here. Right. But looking, looking at my life, these 33, these three years of my thirties have been so much more full of self-love than my twenties combined.
Oh, I would agree with that. Absolutely. We start to feel comfortable in your skin. Some of the body image stuff, it changes. But I do think it's a battle because you didn't have an eating disorder. I think all women struggle with body image. Right. And then if body image is resolved and then there's aging and we have to, we have to deal with, [inaudible] got to learn to love our love ourselves, wrinkles sagginess and all, all of it. I think I'm trying to think of where he left off. So you had talked about, you had this road to recovery and you decided that you needed to really step into this yeah. To be an advocate for them. And so I went back to school, I got my degree in dietetics and it was like the more I, I was like just eating everything up.
The more I learned about their body and how it works. I learned a lot about diet culture and how diet culture plays into people's fears and women's insecurities and almost like makes everything 10 times worse. Right. But the more I learned, I just thought, gosh, I've got to share this with you now. And being able to look at the body and what for what a gift and what a miracle it is instead of from this insecure, it's not good enough space. It's just a game changer. Yeah. I I've spent the last like 10, 11 years working with specifically with sports and eating disorders. And I think the two often overlap, I think every year that I've worked with this group, it's just brought me more blessings because I've, I've learned more stories. And as a result, quite honestly learn more about myself.
I'm sure. Yeah. You're like, Oh snap. I deal with that same thing.
Yeah. For you to sing that many of the issues, aren't just, some people think that we're struggling in something alone. Right. When in reality, almost every client you see has some, some form or another overlapping security issues or these food related issues or these hate toward them, or even like the body dysmorphia, they think they see something that's really not even there. Yep. I think everyone can relate to each other at some level. Right. I think, and it feels good to know you're not alone. Yes, exactly. And I think it's so brave a for you to share your story, because I know that it's not easy to talk about that we, none of us want to talk about the, you know, the dark gritty path. It's so hard to share, but I always tell my girls and you know, this, you know, cause you were in my, my group,
Which in class, the more raw that we can be with
The darkest moments in our life. And the more that we open up, the more that, that can actually impact somebody else's path. Oh, absolutely. To the point of healing them. Right. Just hearing, Oh my gosh, somebody else struggles with this. It's like this light, this beacon of light that I think God puts upon you to say, Hey, I, maybe I gave you this journey so that you can share it right. As dark as that seems, when you're in the light, I emerged from that and I made it right. And that was an earthly thing I went through, but I don't have to go through it anymore. And neither do. Oh, I think it's one, every time I share my story because I believe 100% in full recovery from an eating disorder and body image issues, I think women can learn to love their bodies imperfections at all. Right. And I think every time I share that, you know, I have girls say, or women say, Oh, I had that too. Or, Oh, there's hope, you know. And just to give people that hope is, I think it's so important. I would've loved to hear it. I know
When I was sitting there really
Struggling well, thanks for sharing that story with us.
And you know, our episode today, ladies, I mean, I realized I'm like, Oh, I don't know.
And tell them the episode name we were so excited to get into our content
All for today is really to walk the listeners. All of you, lady bosses, most of you are moms that are part of this podcast following. And whether your ingest is following our mind, we just want you to know it's okay to not love your body, but that there's a healing process for that. And your business success, the balance in your life is all tied. It really is all tied to how you love yourself and the level of confidence that you can create. So regardless of where you are, our goal for you today is to learn something that you can walk away with and implement on how to just love yourself that much more. So thanks for story, Jess. And I guess my second question is what struggles do you see most often, you know, in our demographics? So women between the ages of 25 and maybe 40, is it really body focused? Is it more food-related? Is it both? And why do you think that is?
That's a really interesting question stuff. Cause I think a lot of women are in this funny space right now. Like you mentioned earlier, we're in our thirties, we're starting to feel a little bit more comfortable yet. We've also got this post-baby body. As I say, my new stomach, you know, things just are different. And then we don't want to be held back by any of the body image struggles. Cause now we've got kids. Exactly. And we don't want to pass that on right now. And I think like hyper aware of what we say, right? And if we are not hyper aware that our kids will let us know. So I really think this puts us in a tough spot. There's a lot of misleading information. I think diet culture sends us. We also have, you know, all the historical stuff about our body and we don't really like women are wanting to feel more secure in their bodies, but they want to take care of themselves with food and exercise.
And they get in this bind where they just don't know what to do. And I hear things like, Oh, I can't eat this. You know, I wish I was in better shape. It's the one I always hear with from wives is I don't like it when the lights are on, when I'm with my husband. Right. I want to hear those things. I just think bummer. It is a bummer, such a bummer. They Rob us of being in the moment. That's so true. And I never even thought of that before that I think that's such a key thing you just said, you're almost robbing yourself of these life experiences and for what? Right. Not eating the piece of pizza. Right? Give me a freaking break.
Gosh, that is so crazy. So I think to answer your question, you know, is it food? Is it body? I think it's all of the above. I think a lot of women in our thirties, we practice what's called functional. What I call functional, disordered eating. You know, we're not sick enough to be labeled as a, I believe MC or an anorexic or urban Jeter, but there's definitely this like emotional wall surrounding food and our exercise habits. And I think it just puts us in a really dangerous spot.
You're right. It's like, you're teetering, like you're toying with being so extreme that you could even potentially morph into an eating disorder. Right. And I even think when I say, you know, even for me, you know, I live a low carb lifestyle and we talked about that, but I'll say, Oh, I cheated. I did so bad this weekend. And what was it? It's the beer and pizza. Like, let's get real, you know, but in reality it's was that bad? No. Is it really cheating? So to speak. And I was telling one of my girlfriends today, I actually don't even feel bad because I always get back on Monday. Right. So why am I beating myself up? I should just go, well, that was really fun. And I actually really enjoyed it and get rid of the freaking guilt. Cause then you're robbing yourself of that moment. But yeah, I always compare it to like going on vacation, you know, if you go out of town for the weekend, do you more money? Sure.
But you don't come back and go, Oh, I regret that so much bottle. That awesome stuff. Right? No, you just get back on track and you go back to your budget and I really think food. It's like, why can't we do the same with food?
Wow. Okay. So it's all bad. We've identified that. Now what I believe is the way we feel about ourselves. It radiates outward to me. I feel like there's no just internalizing. I hate myself. My, my booty's humongous. I've got all this horrible cellulite. My boobs are saggy, right? Like the list goes on and on. And this low self-worth that we're internalizing. It's literally seeping out of our pores. It's affecting our relationships. It's affecting our friendships. Like you said, it's robbing us of these present moments and to bring it to our market, it's also affecting our businesses. How can we be successful when we aren't even happy with what we see in the mirror? Right. You know, do you agree with this philosophy? And can you kind of expand on that?
Oh, from my head down to my toes, I mean, I read a quote one time that said, if you don't believe in yourself, why would anybody else Either it's in the research, you know, stuff. I'm a big research. Yeah.
I don't know. I'm just gonna call Jeff.
I love me. Some research research shows that 70% of women will be less assertive in their decision-making and 85% will skip important life events because they don't think they look their best. Oh,
Hello. Like life is so short Out on experiences on, on creating memories that are forever because you don't like the way you look in a bathing suit. Right. Your kids don't
Here. Are you looking to me? I got to tell you a story. So one of my, one of my clients recently went to the Lake and she said for the first time, in nine years, put her swimsuit on and jumped in the Lake with her kids. And that makes me like, want to cry. It just gives me chills even talking about it. Cause she was telling me just the look on her boys' faces was, it was indescribable. I mean she pure joy. And she said, I cannot believe I've wasted nine years. You know, not putting a swimsuit on because I was afraid of how people would, you know, they're people are looking at me, crap. Nobody cares. Who cares? Nobody don't care.
Okay. So that person looks at you in a swimsuit at the Lake and goes, okay,
No, like it doesn't look that good on her.
Hey, here's what I tell my clients. We think people are thinking about us. All they're thinking about is themselves. Right? We think everyone's consumed with our life on social media, on what you look like, all anybody's consumed with is their own ish. Right? Right. That's what I always tell myself when I'm like, should I do this podcast? Should I wear that swimsuit? Should I wear this dress? I don't know how I look. And then I go, you know what? Nobody's even thinking about me. Right. So I'm going to go and I'm a fail forward. And if somebody doesn't like it, the reason that they don't like it is it's their own, it's their stuff. Stuff. That's an amazing story. Yeah. Oh, I love that one. Okay. So we've identified that we have some massive problems here when it comes to self-love for sure. Now
Just a few. I want to shift
Our chat from we've identified the problems. Okay. So I want to shift our talk to healing these issues, and that's what you do. That's what your expertise is. And really creating more confidence, more self-love with moms so that we can just feel happier when we feel happier. And we're loving the way that we look and we're creating memories, we're going to have more success. It's an inevitable share with me, you know, walk us through some tips, Jess, on what are actionable steps that our market and our momma's listening can implement and any guidance that you have for them.
Yes. First one. That's a great question because I do have some very hands-on easy things you can start doing today. First one is I think for everybody know, having a history of an eating disorder, I know not everybody is in like this, get up and love my bodies.
Yeah. Right. They're like, I'm going to snap. My fingers all want to do. Right.
Wouldn't that be nice? When I figured that out, I will be a rich woman. I think every single person can do this one thing. And that is adjust your body posture. They have done some really cool research. [inaudible] How do you feel after straightening up? You know, mean
Interesting. I feel refreshed. Like I had a burst of energy. Yeah.
So the research, again, diving into the research, it does show that just moving your body, like shoulders up, chest up, standing, proud, change your changes, your hormones on the physiological level. So you will up your testosterone, which for women is a competence boosting hormone. And you guys. Yeah, I know. Right. They carry that around. But us, it gives us that little boost and it also drops cortisol levels. Okay. So that is something you can do right now. Just adjust it. Even if you're having a rough day, stand up straight, try to walk through, you know, your house, target wherever you're going today. Just stand up tall and see how it changes, how you're feeling in your body. Another thing you can do on no matter where you're at with your body image is your hair girl. You preach it. The steps to gas right now I'm doing my hair is done. Even if it is done, when you do your hair, it gives the women the sense of control and went to that. Whether it's mom, bun, where it's, you know, whatever it is, dry shampoo, just putting something into it gives us a sense of control.
Cool. Do you mind if I interject? No. Okay. So Jess just said, do your hair, right? I would tell you, ladies, this is really weird up until about eight months ago, I was taking my son to preschool. I would go to the gym and I didn't wear makeup at all. And it was the laziness aspect. About six months ago, I started doing the five minute makeup. I would mix the concealer with the foundation, just some quick blush and mascara. It's super weird. I noticed a massive shift in just the way I feel about myself and my interactions with people. I'm more open to new relationships and talking to people at the gym meeting, the mom was in my son's class from the makeup just cause you felt better. That's awesome. It wasn't like I'm going to hide some makeup on I'm going to avoid everybody. And it's not that I think I'm ugly without makeup. It's just that I just feel more fresh face. Like I just have this little burst of, Oh, I caught myself in the mirror and Hey, I look pretty today. Well the doors then open, right? Yeah. So I can see that. I love that tip. That's a great tip. All right. So now that's the quick and easy ones now for those of you that are looking to, you know, do a little bit more of the deep work, dive in deeper to scuba gear.
If you want to fight that, those inner demons, the mental bully, you've got to truly decide, okay, I'm going to start mentally working and working hard because this is not something you don't just flip a switch. Yeah. And these thoughts are gone. Like you said, you know the talk about the cellulite from that guy in middle school. It's like, that's been with you for a long time rooted in my subconscious mind, which I talked about ladies on episode four. So go back and listen to that. If you missed a subconscious mind talk because you need to reframe that ish. So to dive into that and reframe it, what we can do is we can Mark it with a red tag. You've got to identify it. Right. I think so many women have these thoughts in their minds. So like you said, so rooted so deeply unconscious that they don't even question it anymore. Like you said, you didn't have shorts for how long. Oh, it was from the age of what? 14 to 31. Yeah. It was almost 15 years. Definitely. Guests doesn't wear shorts. I don't wear shorts. And give me a freaking break. Your, you got a banging body. I've seen it.
Shorts. And I wore them to Zoomba about a year ago. And it was when I had started losing all that baby weight. And I was going through that whole transformation purging of my own life. And you know, Zumba, you jump in girl. That's right. The booty. I was like loving my legs the whole time. And yeah, they juggle a little bit whose doesn't it was so liberating. I called my friend after. Cause she's had the same issues as me and I was like, girlfriend, I just wore shorts to Zumba. She died. She's like, are you serious? You wear shorts to Zumba together. That's a big deal. That's a big deal. Was how someone it's just, people don't even know they're doing this stuff. If you would've looked at me seven years ago and been like, you don't wear shorts, do you think there's a deeper issue there?
I'm like, I know now I just offensive or just don't don't how do they identify that? There's a problem. So what I have my clients do is I have them journal, whether it's in a journal, your planner on your phone for three days. Okay. All of the things they say about their body, you know, when they're getting dressed, when you're putting on your pants, what comes up? Oh, these, these jeans don't fit. I knew my butt was getting fat or whatever it is, you know, all of those little things and I have them not fix it. We're not doing anything with it yet. We're just identifying it. So slapping the label on it, identifying it and calling it out is the very first step. Okay. I'm just starting to change some of these negative thoughts we have about ourselves. So once you get that thought and it's identified, it's very clear, like for you, did you, did you know that the whole shorts thing was, was even a thing?
Or how did you make that shift? I think stepping into my thirties and recognizing that the way your body looks is the way your body looks. And it's a blessing. That's a gift from God. For me, it was vanity no longer was defining me. And it was probably I think, through all the weight loss, because I lost like 60 pounds after my boys. And I went through this moment of like, I am what I am stepping into that power shorts, no shorts, bra, no bra. I didn't give a crap. Like, I'm just gonna rock my self the way that it is. And so I think it was a transformation that had to happen in my life that took a few years. And then it was on every level just with your body. Right. And you know, it's funny you say that, I see this happen with science, where we start working on the body image stuff, but then all of a sudden they're doing so many other things that they just don't even care about their body and what it looks like anymore.
So I totally agree with that. That it's not just on one level. I think I actually think working on the body, I'm just stuff can almost spark some of that other life purging. I think it's called it where you're doing a whole, it's like a life transformation and it's weird. Cause that's why I think we, we almost verified here that body is linked to business success, to relationships, success, to more intimacy, to being a better parent. It's been proven, right? Once you start loving yourself, it's radiating and you're seeing all these other areas of your life start to shift out at the same time. I know it's incredible. It's like magic. It's like
The magic moment is if you
Haven't been there yet ladies and you're not 30, you just wait.
It's coming, coming. Their thirties are wonderful. So once you've got these
Thoughts and you are trying to make this kind of life shift, I have this Mo this body mantra that I just want to share with the podcast today. And I hope everybody, if you take anything away from what I'm saying, take this away. I, your body is an instrument, not an ornament. Your body is an instrument, not an ornament. Boom.
So if you've got this new
Perspective and you have these old thoughts labeled, it gives you kind of this doorway to reframe them. And I have two ways. I like my ladies to reframe their negative thoughts about their body. Number one is find one way to appreciate that body part. So I always share my nose. I just don't like my nose never going up.
And I know you think that it's just one of those things. So what I have done
Is I've decided, okay, you know, I'm not getting a nose job. Cause that's something I want to do. I'm going to find a way to appreciate it. Well, I have a nose, right? And I love my nose right now reminds me of my inner rebel
Woman. I'm a mom, but I still got to that. I said that would be one. And then the second
Thought I have women focus on is a functional aspect of that body part. Okay. So my nose, obviously the function is smelling, but I like them to take it a little bit farther and link it to a positive thought. So for me, I have this big mint Bush outside my house and my little four year old boy, every time we go out there, he's so cute. He like runs
It's over. And he said, mama, mama, come smell this. It's so delicious.
Smell it. And so if I think of my nose in this light, like it captures my inner rebel. And it allows me to experience this moment with my son. Yes. The game changer, you know, then who cares what it looks like, just because it's not, you know, movie star. Perfect. So it doesn't matter anymore. You're finding the blessings and you're finding the functionality. And my mom does this. Sometimes she's going to listen to podcasts, sorry, mom, she'd be like, Oh, you know, my legs look fat. I'm like, Oh, but I think if you didn't have legs or I'll tell people good problem to have, I'll tell them people that often I don't have money or I hate the way this looks while it's nice. You still have that. It's like, what have you hated the way your boobs left? For example, now we're talking about,
Well, ladies, what if you didn't have boobs, right? If you know you couldn't nurse your kids and that was important to you and a lot of women don't because they've got breast cancer, right. And they've had them removed. It's all about perspective.
I love that. So that's such a great tip. Anytime you guys find yourself using any of that body hate language, I love justice tip there on just reframing it. So you had the reframe on functionality and then the other one was something you love about it, right? You're no drain, right?
Like find a way to love it. I I've only had this backfire a couple of times I had one moment say I don't like my fingernails. And I was like, Oh my goodness. I bite them. That's exactly what she said. She said, so what's the, what do I do for these nubs? Help me love my nubs, paint them. I got kind of stuck on that way. So I've got one more tip that I want to share today. Stuff for those ready for it. Last one is something I call a compliment challenge. How
Are you doing?
How often do you get a compliment? And it's like, you automatically throw it back or defend yourself or explain yourself all the time.
Like instead of just being like, Oh, thanks. It's Oh yeah. Well, I did that a long time ago or it's old or like, why?
I don't know. I'm a shopaholic. And so yeah. People will compromise profess. Yes. I'm good at it. I'm a professional shopper, but I have people say like, Oh, I love your outfit. And it's like, I have to explain it. I'm like, Oh, I go to on sale and I can't believe you're validating it. We're going to own it.
Awesome. This and start to own, like you said, own my body. And I am who I am. Right. It's to start accepting compliments. Okay. And this is a really fun challenge. I've had my clients go through a week of just accepting them saying, wow, thank you. And then instead of explaining, if you want to
Say more, because if you know the awkward silence, throw it back,
Something else you don't have to comment back on the person's appearance. Right. You might say, Oh, well, I'm so glad to see you today. I can't believe it. You know, you could, you could throw it back in a different way. Sure. But don't explain it and validate it. Like just own, just take it. That is such a good one. It's so good to highlight this stuff too, because like you had said earlier, we just don't even know what we're doing. We create these hats, these damaging habits, pushing off the compliment self hate bashing, our own body. That is the most glorious thing we have without our body. We are literally nothing. Right. literally your
Cells and blood, right? It, you
Must have it. And so I think those tips are so amazing. I mean, I just soaked in all of that knowledge, those tips that you gave me, I know I'm implementing them like yesterday, I'm sitting up straight right now. I'm going to be a compliment freak. We should have like a compliment challenge and the mompreneur group. Oh, that'd be awesome. That'd be really cool. We still have to share our compliments cause that's really owning it. I mean, I've just learned so, so much for me today. And I think ladies, when we are able to recognize first and foremost, the limiting thoughts and beliefs that we are saying about our bodies in particular, maybe noticing, Hey, do I have any of these questionable habits when it comes to food? Maybe when it comes to looking at the mirror, how do I feel? I think that's a trigger.
Do you, do you love it? You see, or do you hate what you see? And if you hate it, you need to understand why and where are those thoughts coming from so that you can reframe them and find a healthy way to heal all of those beliefs. Are there any other words of wisdom, Jess, that you'd like to say before we, before we head out or did we cover everything? I think we covered most of it. I think, you know, just reminding yourself of that mantra, your body is an instrument, not an ornament. And in particular to your mission staff, which is, you know, fulfilling your God-given purpose, should we look at our body as an instrument for that God given purpose. I mean, that's going to redirect how we exercise, how we eat and suddenly it's not about what I can and can't eat. It's what I choose to eat, to build my body, to fuel this purpose. Yes.
I love that. So many good quotes. I'm just gonna like make some memes with just quotes on them. No good. So what Jess, you've taught us so much today.
I truly feel what you're doing for women and mom was everywhere. And all the ladies that you work with and really in the last gosh, eight months or six to eight months opening up this online forum where you're shifting it from working with clients one-on-one to, how can I impact a greater number of women and your bravery blows me away. And I know this is a massive God led calling for you. So I'm cheering for you. I'm clapping for you.
Thank you. That's so much of that came from you and you helping me open those doors. So I just feel indebted to you. You're so sweet. I'm so glad. And I think like you said, God leads us certain people into our lives, right? When we're ready for them. And so thankful that he did that for us, these bosses are probably itching to know, you know, where can we learn more about Jess and what resources does she have that we can get our hands on? So, you know, walk us through that. Well, so again, this was with the help of Stephanie guests. Thank you. Here. I have put together a book called beat body bullying, where I do go into great detail about, you know, how and why these thoughts started, how to fix them, how to reframe them. But I dive in a little bit into more detail about the food and exercise stuff and how to really grab hold of this.
Your body is an instrument, not an ornament and make, you know, action oriented changes. Right? I also have something I call a chow down checklist, which is in essence, a meal plan, but really it comes with this whole packet of information and how to reframe a food choices. I believe everybody's food journey is different. And I think I've, I've really worked to meet people where they're at and give them information that helps them decide how they want to, to go forward. That works for them. Like it sounds and finding you guys what works for you. So Jess has channel and checklist. Amazing. I think everybody needs that. And some people might want to dig in deeper and get your end, get your ebook and have a really in depth implementation style approach to changing the way that they feel. Right. If anybody just wants the basic tips, I do post weekly videos with, you know, you guys have heard my I'm kind of a research nerd.
And so I like to just share all the research that I read. I do that weekly. I have a blog it's firstname.lastname@example.org and on Facebook, nearly neutral. Awesome. So gals go over there, check it out. Grab your, your freebie from Jess and Jess. Just thank you so much. This has been so much fun and hopefully you're enjoying this podcast. If you want to hear more of a certain topic, let me know, head over to the mompreneur group on Facebook, leave a review comment. Let me know what you're loving. Let me know what topics you want to hear and who knows. Maybe you'll be the next person featured on the podcast. It's ladies. I'm just going to pray massive abundance over each and every one of you today, I pray that God can wrap you in love and self-love and help you to realize your body is the most blessing, amazing, incredible instrument that you've been given. And to love yourself from head to toe and to give yourself grace, as you go through the healing journey of learning, to love yourself, because for so many of us, it takes so many years and just ask for his faithfulness and ask for his love and support to get you there. And of course, ask for help, ask for help. The help is there for you. So cheering for every single one of you. I will see you super soon. Love light and abundance as always, Stef.
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